For most people fantasies are normal. They happen when you cant have the real thing. Some like to fantasize with their partners while others hope one day to experience their fantasy or make it come true.
Fantasy is a very normal and healthy part of sex for both men and women. Sometimes a fantasy can lead to better sex, but that fantasy needs to be enjoyed by both and not just the fantasy of one person.
When you have a fantasy, one of the best parts is you can go as far as you want, you can enjoy it as much as you let yourself and at the same time your fantasy lover or lovers share that experience with you.
A fantasy has no repercussions because it is all in your mind. You can get really turned on by your fantasy and it will get you going, your heart racing and it will be so real you hope to try it. But the chances of doing that are not that good
Now several things to remember when it comes to fantasies .
Fantasies are apart of you. You can share them if you feel comfortable sharing them with a partner or a friend or the people who are in your fantasy (if you know who they are).
Your fantasy may be one that is very intimate, sensual and erotic and your partner or friend maybe willing to try it with you. In fact they may be as turned on as you are
But you do need to also remember that when you share those fantasies expect to be rejected, expect your partner to not be interested either. The reason I say this is because your fantasy may be one that just isnt appealing, it may frighten or scare or upset him/her. It maybe your fantasy and not one that he or she wants to be a part of
Rejection can hurt but so can hurting your partner or friend with a fantasy that does not appeal to them and they may let you down because they feel that there is an element of expectation that they should join in and they dont want to.
I know that this is a different He Does She Does, but I felt I needed to share this especially since many people have friends and partners and new partner that they meet during the holiday season. And it would be wrong to push a fantasy onto them that they really werent interested in.
Since I started writing I have written about many fantasies that guys and other girls have had. They often involve threesomes that are safe
So of course you can imagine what my thoughts were when a fantasy was brought to my attention and it was one that personally didnt sit well with me. It involved an almost forced type of situation with the main character (no sorry no names this time round) put into a situation that was definitely not good and not pleasant for her.
The situation was pretty scary and that person had no idea who really was involved in the wild group sex session. They knew their partner was there and a good friend, but then there were others who the main character couldnt even object to.
Remember fantasies are good to have, they are good to enjoy but in this day and age it is time to ensure that your fantasies do not hurt people. Fantasies are there to add pleasures to your life, they give you a bonus when it comes to visualizing and enjoying a special fantasy that is your own.
Of course you can share it; you can even live it . But be realistic when it comes to those fantasies and when it is time to live them, ensure that no one gets hurt.

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